| Weddings. We've all seen them. Some of us have | | | | future might bring. Both bride and groom are bound to |
| been to one or two of them. A few probably have | | | | consider some situations and possibilities of what might |
| participated in one. However, none of us can really | | | | happen several decades from the wedding itself, with |
| know what it feels like to get married until the moment | | | | some of them being perfectly reasonable and others |
| arrives when one sits at the altar, with half your | | | | bordering on psychological horror. Is she just after the |
| instincts telling you to run to the nearest exit and not | | | | cash? Will he start looking at other women when she |
| look back. One can't imagine or understand what it | | | | gets old? Will he want kids or not? Will the kids follow |
| really means to seal the deal, strap on the old ball and | | | | her religion or be atheists like him? All of these things |
| chain, and say goodbye to all the subtle pleasures and | | | | tend to pile up and make the stress and anxiety of |
| little freedoms that being single affords a person, not to | | | | getting married double, or even triple in some drastic |
| mention the relative financial security. | | | | cases. |
| The fact is, weddings cause brides and grooms insane | | | | The fear doesn't even really have to come from the |
| amounts of stress and anxiety. From the moment the | | | | future, as quite a bit of stress and anxiety can come |
| guy decides to propose, there's an undue amount of | | | | from just the thought of living together. After all, you |
| pressure that has to be dealt with. Selecting the | | | | only really get to know one another when you've lived |
| perfect place, finding the right ring, and getting the | | | | with each other for extended periods. For those who |
| mood for that particular event just right can wreak | | | | didn't have a long engagement, this could easily come |
| untold havoc on an otherwise normal and fully | | | | into play as both parties experience various |
| functioning mind. Of course, this is nothing compared to | | | | uncertainties about whether this arrangement is the |
| the stress and anxiety that comes with actually | | | | right move. |
| planning the wedding. | | | | However, while all this stress and anxiety is definitely |
| However, the fact is, the most amount of stress and | | | | something to be considered, these things are not what |
| anxiety tends to come at the day of the wedding | | | | one should dwell upon the day of one's wedding. A |
| itself. That's when all the pressure comes down on | | | | wedding should be a happy occasion, and one that |
| you and you realize that, at the end of the ceremony, | | | | was prepared for several months ahead of time. |
| you're going to be bound to one another for "all | | | | Evaluate whether you're just nervous or if you're |
| eternity." For some, the thought is a welcome one, | | | | outright questioning the relationship itself. If you have |
| but for most, there's always going to be that element | | | | stress and anxiety the day of the wedding because of |
| of uncertainty that causes stress and anxiety to take | | | | the nature of the event, that's fine. In all likelihood, that's |
| root once one partner gets to the altar. In some cases, | | | | a perfectly natural reaction. However, if you're starting |
| it builds to the point that one half of the pair doesn't | | | | to feel nervous because you're not sure you're taking |
| want anything to do with the whole affair before the | | | | the right step with the right person, then maybe you |
| organ even starts playing. | | | | should have thought about that before proposing, don't |
| For some, though, all that stress and anxiety pales in | | | | you think? |
| comparison to the worries that thinking about the | | | | |